We don’t know everything. It is easy to learn new things on subjects you know nothing about. It is harder to learn something new, when you think you already know, but it turns out you are wrong. A flexible mind doesn’t sway in every gentle breeze, but it knows when to bend and pick up something new, something interesting. Losing an argument is excellent proof that your brain isn’t so rusty that it can only argument in one direction.
So this week I want you to pick a fight. I want you to lose an argument and preferably against someone whose opinion you hold in high regard.
There is only one way I can make sure that this week you find someone worthy to disagree with on an important subject. It has to be you! I want you to pick a fight with yourself.
Challenge an assumption about yourself
In order to make sense of the world, we assume an awful lot. Life sure gets easier when you can predict certain things. But a lot of times we overestimate how accurate our predictions are and some assumptions are just completely off.
We especially have very strong convictions about ourselves. Surely you know you better than anyone else?! But maybe some assumptions we make about ourselves aren’t that accurate at all. Maybe some rules you defined about yourself just seem to be true because you never challenge them anymore. These are probably the assumptions about yourself you don’t even recognize as assumptions anymore. “This is just who I am.”
Lets take this week to find some of those assumptions and pick one you are willing to challenge for a few days.
Maybe you can think of one yourself, but it can help to ask the people who know you well and who you trust. They might see something you would take as a given fact.
Choose one assumption and this week try to disregard it. I am not asking you to belief the opposite, just allow it to fade into uncertainty. Play with the notion that maybe it isn’t true.
The easiest ones to test are those that are very black and white. “I can’t …” I always …” It becomes trickier when you want to test an assumptions that isn’t that clear cut. Maybe you even have to actively look for opportunities to test that assumption.